Perhaps you’ve heard about the latest angry women protests dubbed “slutwalks”. In response to Toronto Policeman, Michael Sanguinetti’s advice that, in order to avoid victimization, women should refrain from dressing like “sluts”, women are taking to the streets clad in slutgear to protest.Granted, Mr. Sanguinetti could have chosen his words a bit more carefully, but, let’s face it…. the advice, while a touch unrefined, is basically sound. It’s similar to advice my mother gave me and that I would pass along to my own daughter. Unsurprisingly, feminists are blowing his remark out proportion, automatically equating victimization with rape, alleging that Mr. Sanguinetti, instead of stating simple truths, is telling women that if they dress provocatively they deserve to be raped.
In these slutwalks, women are gearing up in bikinis and lingerie and scrawling the word “slut” upon their bare skin in an effort to “take back” the word slut. From the SlutwalkToronto.com, “And whether dished out as a serious indictment of one’s character or merely as a flippant insult, the intent behind the word is always to wound, so we’re taking it back. “Slut” is being re-appropriated.”
Why is that feminists are always taking back things that no sane, logical person would want in the first place?
Generally when a group of individuals unite and rally to take something back….it’s something you actually want; something good that has been wrongfully maligned. All I ever see feminists taking back are things I wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole. Instead of taking back 'bitch' or 'slut'; how about we try taking back wife, mother or femininity. Instead of re-appropriating slut, how about reclaiming honesty, virtue and integrity? But I guess we wouldn’t see feminists marching to take back those things…as they are the ones who have fought voraciously to malign and destroy them.
I suppose this is why I identify so much more with the men’s movement than with feminism. I can rally behind men taking back “father”, “masculinity”, “man”….because they are good things that have been wrongfully vilified. They are worth fighting for; worth taking back. Conversely, I will forever stand at odds with feminists because I have absolutely no interest in fighting for their causes. They are the antithesis of everything I stand for....forever fighting for all the wrong things.
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It's just not like Feminist to blow things way out of proportion is it? We can't expect the media to tell them they have taken the comment wrong?
Sluts come out in mass to protest, oh wait feminist hate men and even prostitution so why are they acting like sluts?
Calling all attention whores
I was going to post this at AM but, I'll say it here first.
I absolutely agree about the whole slut thing. I have no desire to become a slut to be empoweredlike literally, I'm demisexual-it's a form of asexuality-it's complicated and even if I was fully sexual I wouldn't want to shame myself into being some disgusting person that has no standards.
I want people to be able to express themselves in a safe, sane, and healthy way. Dressing like a slut is not doing that, it is the antithesis of healthy. I have no problem with you, if you are with *insert sexual preference, gender identity, or whatever* but for the Gods' sake have some sense.
If a woman dresses provocatively, it's no different than if I take $1,000 in hundred dollar bills to Camden, NJ. In either instance, the result is both tragic and predictable; in either instance, the end result is also PREVENTABLE...
Slutwalks are nothing to take seriousely, as they are nothing other then sophmoric herd-mentality attention-whoring. I remember a "walkout" at my high school in 1985 over some asbestos issue. My classmates and these slutwalkers would bolt and run at the first sign of trouble, and could really care less about what they are "protesting". Ghandi would laugh if he saw what passes for civil disobedience these days, and the frivolous issues they think are so weighty. I have a dughter in college and she would also laugh at such emptiness of character.
I'm all in favor of slutwalks. I hope that ever one who participates in a slutwalk proudly puts this fact on their Facebook page, along with their picture. It would be great if there was a database of slutwalkers.
Think of all the emotional pain and financial damage that could be avoided by men, if they knew a woman they were seeing was really just another feminist/slut who sees men as walking ATM's and nothing more.
More slutwalks. And more photos of slutwalkers. If it only saves one man from being raped in anti-family court, it is worth it.
Gender feminists don't know what it means to take something back. I can only sigh.
I notice the sluts are getting better looking, though. So... that's something. (Better, mind you. Not good.)
"how about we try taking back wife, mother or femininity... honesty, virtue and integrity"
While you're out accomplishing impossible tasks, throw in "obscene," "decadent," "sinful," and "racism" for me, would you?
"Why is that feminists are always taking back things that no sane, logical person would want in the first place?"
Great post anyway, but that line in particular really tickled me.. :)
Why is that feminists are always taking back things that no sane, logical person would want in the first place?
Kinda answered your own question there Kim.
Amfortas says:
'Tis good that a woman speaks out and I know you are not alone Kim. I have seen quite a few comments around the I'net, by women, decrying this retrograde silliness.
It is good to see you back on the blogging again. I have miised you.
We are all responsible for our own actions and rapists / molesters ar responsible for their actions. But someone who provokes a criminal act or facilitates it is an accomplice before the fact. If a woman wears clothing deliberately intended to provoke a sexual response, she is culpably negligent in regards to her own safely.
If these women wish to 'take back the 'Right'' to dress sluttily, so be it, and let them suffer the consequences without complaint. But they have NO right to demand the 'right' for others, especially far younger females.
It seems to me that it is women like that who buy all the scanty clothes that adorn small girls and bring them into danger. It sure isn't dad's buying sexy clothes for tots.
"Unsurprisingly, feminists are blowing his remark out proportion, automatically equating victimization with rape, alleging that Mr. Sanguinetti, instead of stating simple truths, is telling women that if they dress provocatively they deserve to be raped."
It's a logical fallacy that feminists have employed since I can remember.
One of the latent ideas that they are trying to promote is that women should be safe no matter what---protected from their on consequences. You can state openly you find rape (the real thing) repellent and never wish it on anyone, yet if you suggest that they could do preventative measures to avoid it and being physically attacked, you get the same nonsense; "Who dare you blame the victim!" and that you must hate women and wish ill on them, etc.
I'm versed as a fighter in sparring and self-defense, and while I don't agree with everything that the reality self-defense instructors teach down to the wire, one thing is certain; there are ways of lowering the chances of being a victim of violent crime.
Nothing is perfect, and while the onus of a crime on the perp, if you would suggest (for a moment) to a feminist that women should take some self-responsibility for behaviors that are destructive and could lead to a bad outcome, you're a misogynistic jerk.
As as the slut thing is concerned, it's "empowering" when the feminist-minded champion it, but if you're not in their good graces and call a spade a spade, you're on their receiving end of their wrath---especially if they don't like you to begin with. The "slut" badge has not been a stigma for them as dishonorable or shame for quite some time. Unless, of course, you find their behavior foolish. Then watch the proverbial claws protract.
All the cop was saying was that if a woman wants to reduce her chances of being chosen as the next victim for the criminal's crime, then she should change the way she dresses. How is that in any way saying that the assault was her fault? He only spoke from his years of experience as a police officer, and from how the criminals pick their victims. That's like the cop telling a bunch of guys that if we want to reduce our chances of getting mugged, that we should avoid walking down dark alleys at midnight, fanning ourselves with hundred dollar bills. Sound advice, wouldn't you think so? But no, how dare he or anyone else demand that a strong, liberated, educated woman take any responsibility in preventing hardship against herself. These "sluts" are so blinded by a victim mentality, that they can't see anything else, let alone someone trying to help them. And reclaiming the word "slut"? It never meant anything good to begin with!! Spot on, Kim!!
Taking back the word "slut",huh? What's next, white people taking back the word "nigger"?
Of all the retarded bullshit I can think of....
On another note, out of ALL the myriad pictures of these "sluts" I have observed, NOT ONE woman present at these "slutwalks" could BRIBE me to have sex with her, not even while shitfaced drunk.
We MRA's should show up at one of these events with our own signs to remind these "ladies" that in order to be a "slut" you have to be attractive enough that men will actually have sex with you.
Personally, I can't wait until feminists get so full of themselves that they start rioting and belligerently storm a barricade emplacement surrounded by National Guardsmen. I'd put a laugh track to it and piss myself giggling at them being blown all over the sidewalk with firehoses while hungry German Shepherds go to town on their inexplicably exposed jelly rolls and nasty "pubic pouches" (see the one on the far right in the pic,god,that shit is nasty)
if a male authority figure told women not to put their hand on a hot stove, feminists would march in support of women putting their hands on hot stoves until they were crippled
Reminds me of a comment I once heard:
A pessimist fears all women are sluts.
An optimist hopes.
I agree with a lot of what you've written...I think that these women are going about this particular issue in the wrong way.
If I may clarify, though, the idea of "taking something back." It's not that feminists want to become "sluts" or "bitches." It's usually that they get called that when they don't deserve it, so they attempt to remove some of the social stigma.
For example - I'm a stay-at-home mom with two kids and a dog, I'm happily married. I also consider myself a feminist, though probably not in the sense that you or your commenters read it. Folks at my church frequently accuse me of being a "man-hater," or even that I must "hate being a woman" because I occasionally work doing translation or teaching classes at colleges (which I can't get my brain around - I work so my family can have more time as a whole, rather than me being the only one my kids see, and that means I hate my husband and myself??). I've also been called a "bitch" - one of the most memorable times being because a senior male student in one of my classes who did not complete any of the course assignments and attended 30% of the classes failed my class. Since I wouldn't change his grade to a C (?!?) so that he could graduate, I was a "bitch." If that's being bitchy, I'm fine with it - his grade is no fault of mind.
I don't know if that helps at all, but that's my attempt.
LOL!LOL!
What a bunch of stupid looser, ho sorry I mean slut! LOL! Apparently feminist are more insane that I was able to imagine! LOL!
Anon 1:12, your disgusting and juvenile comments don't help. Anon 6:58, rape is not a sexual response.
I can understand the anger at telling women their dress might affect rape, or THINKING that someone said this. Men don't rape out of lust, but loose clothing can still draw rapists, for many reasons: it makes bodies more accessible. The rapists may assume the women are or look promiscious, so won't be taken seriously by police. They may think the women will ASSUME they won't be taken seriously because of their dress. They may assume the women are prostitutes and so either won't be taken seriously, or won't risk getting in trouble by getting involved with the police, or won't even see it as that big a deal. Or, they may assume the women are poor and won't be able to afford the expense of a trial; there are a myriad of reasons.
"In either instance, the result is both tragic and predictable; in either instance, the end result is also PREVENTABLE..."
Well-said, Mark.
Must be good to be so privileged that they can actually waste energy complaining about what people think of their fashion sense.
Kim,
After looking at these pics from 'slut walks' around the world, I noticed one thing: I wouldn't WANT to have sex with any of those ugly skanks! They'd have to pay men to have sex with them...
MarkyMark
I just wanted to say, thank you for sharing this.
I hope you don't mind, but I linked this article in a post of my own. :)
Sami
I don't agree with slut walks and I don't think women should be dressing provocatively but I do find a problem with the cop's statement. He is telling women that the way a woman dresses has a direct influence on the chances of being raped. That is not true, and he as a cop should know that because if that were true then neither elderly women, nuns nor children would be raped. In fact, most cases of rape the woman is not dress provocatively at all. There are a million other things that have a stronger correlation with rape than the way of dressing, if he would had mention dressing as part of those things probably it would have been OK but correlating only dressing with rape, it is a misleading statement.
Good luck in trying to get some sanity back into the world Kim..
Nobody has the right to commit any crime against you, but feminists are mentally ill and are declaring 'rape' as a somewhat special crime by organizing this moronic slut-walk.
I am sure you are against burglary, but will you walk in the street in evening with a torch-light and carrying screwdrivers and cutters and similar tools around claiming you are against theft and robbery? Surely NO.
So what will you do instead of it?
You will think about how to PREVENT the crime of theft/burglary against your property. - You will lock your home carefully, will consider not only doors but also windows, will consider theft-alarm, camera surveillance, will lock your valuables in a safety box in a major bank covered by insurances etc.
You are NOT obliged by law to do anything regarding crime prevention. But if your property is gone, you cannot expect anybody will help you and bring back your stolen items.
If you are worried about rape, you should think about how to PREVENT it. You must do that out of yourself. Again, you are not obliged by law to do anything - it's totally up to you.
That's all what I can say. If something is happen to you, do not expect help from others. It is impossible to protect everybody, everywhere against any crime.
I think it's terrible how both men and women dress these days, but specially women. They want to be respected but at the same time dress like hookers. Then they want the women over seas to dress like whores too thinking that is some sort of liberation. I used to think that in the middle east it was awful that women were made to wear vales, until I read a report that most women wear the vale as a sign that they wish to be respected for their minds and not their beauty, and not simply because men force them to wear vales. However, even though both men and women in the middle east enforce vale wearing they also enforce countless other habits all to preserve morals over vanity and extreme sexuality. Just that in western culture we enforce our own belief systems onto other countries. It seems like American women are jealous that the rest of the world isn't dress like sluts. It's also sad too that men are dressing like stereotypical gay men. Now don't get me wrong I am also gay, however, I see people acting like stereotypes in the USA and gay men seem to dress like dirty prostitutes as well as straight men who seem to think dressing like a skimpy NYC slut is trendy. I tend to think someone can look more sexual by toning it down a bit and dressing in such a way to give glimpses of sexuality, but most women these days dress like Dr. Furter from the Rocky Horror Picture Show. I've been known to have my "fun" moments but I wouldn't dress down like a whore just because every other American is doing it. But it does reflect the ever decreasing educational test scores in the USA, and reflect the fact that the average IQ in the US has dropped the past 30 years.
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