In short, a mother in the U.S. adopts a 7 year old boy from Russia. After having him in her home for some months, she sticks a note on him that she's changed her mind because he's violent and disturbed and has her mother drive him to the airport where he's put on a plane and returned to the Russia.
This is the comment I left on this article,
It's unsurprising if this little boy had emotional and behavioral problems. Such things should be anticipated in these types of situations. Sadly, I've no doubt that whatever emotional issues he may have had at the onset of this adoption have been significantly compounded. He needed love and care. He needed to know that there were people who would be there for him no matter what.
Once you legally adopt a child, the life and care of that child is your responsiblity until he/she is an adult. This is no different than a woman giving birth and then, following a trial period, sending the child back in a cab to the hospital with a note that she'd changed her mind.
The care and raising of a child is an enormous responsiblity. To wipe one's hands of their obligations where another life is involved.....especially when the life is that of an innocent child, is unconscionable.
I know people who adopted a little boy from an orphanage (Vietnamese, I believe). He was in the orphanage from birth and was never held, rocked or shown affection of any kind. He had a plethora of behavioral issues. They stood by him and did their best for him, and no, it was never easy....but that is what they obligated to do when they made the commitment to raise and care for him.
I will hope that there is someone who will see and care about the needs of this little boy. I hope that the damage that has been done by his adoptive family can be countered and that someone can show him his worth and that he deserves to be loved.
As I said in my quote, I appreciate that an unloved, unwanted child who's been raised in a Russian orphanage could have some pretty hefty baggage to deal with. I appreciate that the woman who adopted him could have been unprepared for this baggage and felt very much in over her head. Regardless....he's a little boy. He's not a pair of shoes that you can just package up and send off with a note that they didn't fit.
I've been involved in animal rescue and fostering for some time. There are some pretty strong feelings (all negative) amongst those of us in the rescue world for people who adopt dogs, decide they can't handle them and then abandon or turn them over to the pound. We understand that people don't always realize how much time, effort and commitment are involved in responsible dog ownership, we understand that sometimes people bite off more than they can chew...but that doesn't excuse abandoning one's commitment to a life you have obligated to care for.....and these are dogs.
We're talking about a little boy; a seven year old little boy. Let me put seven years old into perspective for you. Your average seven year old in the U.S. has probably been tying his shoes for a year now and is finally getting pretty good at. He MAY have lost his first tooth and is really excited about getting money from the tooth fairy. He's recently started going to elementary school.
This seven year old thought he had a home and a family and, instead, was taken to the airport and put on a plane to Russia by himself. I can't even imagine how confused and scared he must have been.
I don't care if the adoption agency did misrepresent the situation. This child deserved much better than to be taught, yet again, that he is unloved, unwanted and uncared for. I've seen many "you should walk a mile in the mother's shoes" type comments about this situation and I have to say...some things are simply and inexcusably wrong. If I were to walk a mile in this woman's shoes and emulate her actions, then I would simply and inexcusably be wrong.