A Code for Women

The truth is the only thing worth having, and, in a civilized life, like ours, where so many risks are removed, facing it is almost the only courageous thing left to do. ~E.V. Lucas

I recently witnessed a conversation between men concerning a code for men; a standard of values and behavior that they believed were worth following and adhering to. Of course, we're all familiar with the traditional code of chivalry, but these men were looking to define something far different than gallant behavior towards women. They wanted to outline a code of honorable behavior among men for themselves.....for their own growth and personal betterment. It was mentioned in the course of this discussion that I should consider writing about a code for women.

Now, before anyone asks who put me in charge to dictate the behavior of women everywhere, I must submit that truths are universal. Regardless of how we choose to live our lives, right and wrong remain fairly static. Additionally, I firmly believe that religion has no claim or monopoly upon morality. Any human being is capable of honing a conscience, regardless of that person's beliefs.

That said, I decided to ponder the concept of a code for women. While, in the past, there never was a named code with specific, written rules, there were generally accepted standards of behavior. Of course, these standards have all been labeled misogyny and oppression under feminism so any semblance of a code that women may have traditionally adhered to has since fallen by the wayside.

To begin with, I decided to look at women in modern society and determine if a code did, indeed, already exist to any significant degree and if so, what it was. To do so, I needed to look at the behaviors which are applauded and encouraged in women and, what better way than to delve into the 'you go girl' phenomena; to determine when "you go girl" generally applies. I've found the most common instances to be when,

a. A woman is physically or verbally abusive to a man.
or
b. When a woman behaves in a ruthless or aggressive manner.

Of course, there are other occasions apparently deserving of a "you go girl" and they generally include phrases such as "it's my body" or "men have been doing it for years" and are typically followed by some form of selfish or unconscionable act.

Based upon my observations, I would suggest that a code does exist for women but it is one that encourages them to behave selfishly, coldly and immorally. It's a code that applauds narcissism, misandry, immorality and violence.

Despite a myriad of allegations to the contrary....I am a woman who happens to think women are wonderful; or at least equipped with the propensity to be wonderful. It saddens me to see women encouraged and applauded to be so very little of what they could be. Therefore, I am going to submit a code for women.

Considering what's currently encouraged in female behavior, I'm afraid this will take much longer than a single blog post, so I'll be doing this in parts. The first aspect of this code is Honesty.

Honesty is a word everyone knows but few seem to understand. Honesty goes beyond simply not committing theft or fraudulent activities. It's more than returning a wallet you find on the ground or not cheating on an exam or your taxes. While it's imperative that we be honest with others, it's of even greater importance that we are honest with ourselves.

Being honest with oneself is at the heart of integrity. It means that we make no excuses for ourselves or our behavior. It means that we don't alter our moral parameters in order to accommodate our situation or actions. Honesty is being able to admit we are wrong without making excuses for our errors. It's the willingness to take an unflinchingly clear and often painful and uncomfortable look at ourselves..

This is the type of honesty I see women struggle with the most. It's an intellectual dishonesty where they are willing to redefine morality and skew reality in order to accommodate their behaviors. This dishonesty is so prevalent that it's used in even the most abhorrent of circumstances.

Women have extended this dishonesty beyond themselves to encompass the whole. Even when women commit the most unthinkable and vilest of acts, there is an obscene attempt to soften our view of those women. Murder, abuse, infanticide, infidelity......regardless of how evil the act, an effort is generally made to alter morality and make excuses for the women who commit them. This dishonesty is then compounded when, instead of being labeled the atrocious falsehood that it is, it is called kindness and empathy.

I chose honesty first because it is a fundamental aspect of a person's positive progression. Without honesty, it is impossible to further our personal growth or our development of character. While not always easy, it is imperative that we learn to be uncompromisingly honest with ourselves. It is through such honesty that we are able to change and grow, without this ability, we are suspended in a childlike state where there can be no improvement or progression.

More on Obama and Feminism

Pursuant to my previous post (take special note of the bolded text).....

http://www.cnsnews.com/public/conten...x?RsrcID=42881


Obama Is First Feminist President, Panelists Say
Tuesday, February 03, 2009
By Penny Starr, Senior Staff Writer


(CNSNews.com) – Panelists at a feminist conference have made it clear that they believe Barack Obama is the first feminist president.

“We’ve been locked out of the White House for eight years,” said Eleanor Smeal, president of the Feminist Majority. She was among those taking part in a panel discussion at George Washington University on Monday.

Smeal passed out the special inaugural issue of her organization’s Ms. magazine, the cover of which features Obama ripping off his shirt and tie to reveal a T-shirt reading, “This is What a Feminist Looks Like.”

Smeal wrote that Ms. “wanted to capture both the national and feminist mood of high expectations and hope as the 44th president of the United States takes the oath of office.”

She said when she met Obama, “He immediately offered, ‘I am a feminist.’”

The mood was buoyant at the conference, dubbed Fem2.0: Society’s Issues and Women’s Voices.

Panelists and participants expressed the belief that Obama will advance their agenda -- introducing the Freedom of Choice Act; increasing funding for family planning around the world, including abortions; ending funding for abstinence-only sex education ; and making access to contraceptives available to all women.

“Week One of Obama’s administration, we thought maybe we should start packing our things, because our whole agenda is going to get done by the end of the month,” said Christina Page, conference panelist and author of “How the Pro-Choice Movement Saved America.”

In his first week in office, Obama reversed the Mexico City Policy that was initiated by President Reagan and reinstated by George Bush after the Clinton administration lifted it. The policy barred U.S. tax dollars from funding organizations that promote or perform abortions abroad. The policy's reversal by Obama means U.S. taxpayers will now be paying for abortions abroad.

The Freedom of Choice Act would strike down virtually all state laws restricting abortion and allow federal funds to be used for abortions. The act has to be passed by Congress to become law.

The conference featured several panelists discussing how the "new media" can be used by feminists to advance their agenda of “reproductive choice and justice,” and other issues facing women, including discrimination against minority women and those who have children.

The New Face of Feminism

Take a good look at feminism's new poster child.....no other than Barrack Obama, newly appointed president of the United States.

Eleanor Smeal, president of the Femininst Majority Foundation and publisher of Ms. magazine relates the following,

When the chair of the Feminist Majority Foundation board, Peg Yorkin, and I met Barack Obama, he immediately offered "I am a feminist." And better yet, he ran on the strongest platform for women's rights of any major party in American history. Feminist Karen Kornbluh, the platform's principle author, ensured women's rights, opportunities, advancement, and issues were addressed throughout the historic document.

Get ready America.......get ready.

Silent Dissent Isn't Enough

It's not unusual while pointing out the misandry promoted by radical feminists to hear women say, "I don't think like that...I don't hate men" and, quite honestly, I'd wager that many women do not hold to the hateful concepts embraced and promoted by feminism.

Most women do not hate men; most women's vision of Utopia is not a world free from men. There are even women who internally oppose most of what feminsm stands for. The question, however, must be....is that enough? Is it enough not to promote hatred of men? Is it enough not to be part of the vicious campaign created solely with the intent of villifying and maligning men?

While it is true that we don't bear responsibility for the actions of others, it is also true that we are accountable if we choose to stand silently by, allowing evil in our midst while doing nothing to counter it...especially if that evil is being committed in our name.

Feminists claim to represent the causes and concerns of all women; if women say nothing to this claim then they are consenting by their silence. Personally, I will not allow anyone to speak in my name, claiming that I support things that I don't and feminists do believe that they speak for all women.

More than once, those who allegedly speak in my behalf have declared that I am unquestionably a man because "no woman would say that". To feminists, for a woman to stand in opposition to feminism is virtually inconceivable.

It's also not uncommon to hear from women who don't support the anti-male environment that pervades our soicety, "but what can we do about it". I will tell you what you can do about it.....every time you see or hear something that promotes misandry, say something. If it's a commercial, write the company and tell them your disapproval of their ad campaign. If you hear women vocalizing the typical 'all men are pigs' rhetoric, voice your feelings on the matter. There's no need to be confrontational....a polite, "There are many, many wonderful men and, personally, I'm very thankful for the great men I've had in my life" will more than suffice.

Much of misandry exists simply because it's been allowed to...because nobody stood up and denounced it for what it was. If women started speaking out in defense of their beliefs, in the defense of their fathers, sons, husbands and brothers, it would soon become very clear that feminists do not speak for all women.

Speaking out, however, is also not enough. Women have to decide what is right and what is wrong and then maintain those values. Today, far too many women are guilty of what I like to call 'convenient morality'. If a divorce is a horrible and destructive thing, it doesn't suddenly become a good, beneficial decision simply because you decide to file for one. If it's unthinkable and cruel to alienate children from their father, it doesn't become acceptable once you're the one doing it. Engaging in or promoting misandric speech and behavior isn't suddenly o.k. because you're unhappy with the man in your life. What's wrong is wrong, and the hypocrisy far too many women are willing to embrace by excusing reprehensible behaviors in order to accommodate their own actions is very disturbing.

That said, I challenge everyone to speak out against misandry, men and women both. And, while the men's movement is unquestionably for and about men, I think women bear far greater responsibility in speaking out against feminism. Feminism is supposed to be the movement for women, it purports to represent and speak in our behalf....so let's take back our voices.