I got into an arguement on a forum a while back with a woman who said if she had to choose between saving her dog and a human life...any human life....she'd save her dog. Mind you she was married and had children and made it quite clear that she would leave them to their own devices and save her dog. She also mentioned that once while enroute to the vets because her dog was sick, she happened upon an accident that had just occurred. She didn't stop. She figured nobody had ever bothered going out of their way to help her, so why should she bother going out of her way.
As much as I love my dogs....I would save a human, any human, and would just hope and pray that my dogs were able to take care of themselves. I expressed this to her, along with a few other thoughts I had concerning the value of human life. Her response was that I, obviously, had led a charmed life. Clearly, nothing bad had ever happened to me so it was easy for me to maintain a moral high ground....I was just lucky.
I hear that a lot from women; that I'm lucky. Mind you, I do consider myself incredibly lucky. Lucky that I have never had to go hungry or homeless, lucky to be healthy, lucky to have a wonderful husband and three beautiful children. What bothers me is that apparently everything in my life that I deeply value; my marriage, my children, my character and integrity....these are all simply the result of random luck.
Apparently, if you have a successful marriage it's not because you worked very hard to be kind, understanding, loving and selfless.....nope, you were just lucky. If you are a decent human being it has nothing to do with years of introspection and constantly striving to better yourself.....you're just lucky.
I find this yet another way to avoid any semblance of accountability. It's not your fault if you are a despicable human being with no redeeming qualities.....you were just unlucky. You're not responsible for the failure of your marriage....you were unlucky in the husband department.
A good friend of mine told me a story recently of an incident that happened while she was at work. She works two nights a week and there are quite a few divorced women at her work. My friend is kind and friendly, attractive and thin AND she's been happily married for 14 years and has 3 kids. The women she works with were all talking about how hard their lives are, how much it sucks to be single moms, how there aren't any decent men......when one of them commented, "Unlike (insert my friend's name here)". All the women kind of smirked and joined in with, "Yeah, unlike ______". My friend asked them what they were talking about and they sarcastically replied with, "It must be hard being skinny and pretty and happily married....you've REALLY got it rough".
My friend was a little upset by this. It was painfully obvious that the women deeply resented her. It was also quite obvious that, in their minds, the only difference between them and her was that she was lucky and they weren't. She had somehow gotten off easy while they'd gotten the short end of the stick.
The thing is, she hasn't gotten off easy. I know a lot about her life and it hasn't been easy at all. Her childhood was horrible. Her and her husband have had enormous trials and struggles throughout their marriage. She, like myself, wasn't lucky; she was determined that she would be a good person, a wonderful wife and a great mom.....regardless of what life threw at her. She didn't cave in and she didn't make excuses for herself. She faced up to her responsibilities, realizing that she alone was accountable for her decisions and actions and for the kind of person she turned out to be and nothing could take the place of personal values and integrity......not even luck.
It makes me wonder how many women are going to spend their lives, not attempting to take a long, hard look at themselves, bettering themselves or learning from their mistakes, but simply waiting for their luck to change.....I'm guessing they've got a long wait.
Men On Strike
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