Divorce

I've long been of the opinion that divorce has done more harm to our society than many of the maladies currently affecting it. Doesn't anyone believe in 'til death do us part anymore? It's really a symptom of our selfish, quick-fix society. I don't get my own way, I'm not happy, I want to have fun...I'll get a divorce. I get so sick of the phrase "I'm not happy". You're not happy? Then get happy, make yourself happy. Where did people ever learn that it is somebody else's job to make us happy. If YOU'RE not happy, then that's probably something that YOU need to fix. Looking for somebody else to make you happy or to fulfill you will never work. Nobody's perfect. Eventually, you're going to realize that the person you married is just as human and flawed as you are. The fairy tale will be ruined and you'll be left to deal with the reality that your spouse is merely mortal. And why should that person be responsible for completing or fulfilling you to begin with? Marriage is supposed to be about taking care of each other.

I think the only time divorce is acceptable is in instances of abuse and MAYBE infidelity. I'm sure some people would be appalled that I don't consider infidelity a blanket excuse for divorce, but if there's any way possible to salvage the marriage, it should be done, especially if there are children involved. I can't tell you how disgusting I find it that people are so quick to end their marriage when they have children. And, if we're being honest, women are guiltier of it than men. Nowadays, people go into marriage with the mindset that if it doesn't work out, they can get a divorce. Marriage should never be entered into unless you're 100% committed to making it work. The vast percentage of marriages that end in divorce don't end over abuse, they end over selfishness. Never mind the lives of innocent children are being destroyed...somebody's 'needs' aren't being met. In my opinion, if you choose to get married and have a family, then you're responsible to that. You're responsible to see to it that your children get raised in the best environment possible, and the best environment possible is not a broken home.

Today, things like integrity and honor mean very little, if they did, people would be a little more careful about honoring their vows. Vows like, 'in sickness or in health, for better for worse, richer or poorer'.....I don't remember anywhere in my marriage vows, 'until I get bored', 'until something better comes along', 'until I'm no longer recieving enough attention', or 'until things get difficult'. Marriage is difficult. I've been married for 15 years, and I was only 18 when I got married. It has not been easy, but that's not the point. I chose to get married. I chose to bring children into the world. I've always lived by the motto that you have the right to live your life however you want, as long as your rights don't take away the rights of others. I don't have the right to walk out on my marriage because it might be 'easier', because I'd be taking away my children's rights to be raised with both a mother and a father. I don't have the right to cheat on my husband, because that would be taking away his right to be in a monogamous relationship. There's a word I like to use that's not too popular nowadays...accountability. Be acountable for your choices. Be accountable for the lives you bring into this world. Life shouldn't be about momentary gatification, it should be about doing the right thing...even if it isn't easy.